Funeral homes provide a space where family and friends can come together
to celebrate the life of a lost loved one. It is also customary for guests to
bring flowers, gifts, and condolence cards to those closest to the deceased. If you’re wondering what you should
write in the condolence card you’re preparing for a funeral, this
guide can help:
It is always a good idea to start off a condolence card by sharing a message
of sympathy. Talk about how you will miss the deceased and how you are
sorry for the family’s loss. Avoid common expressions about the
deceased being in a better place or a higher power having some sort of
plan, as these can seem insensitive to some during a time of grief.
Following a death, it is nice for the family of the deceased to hear positive
things about their lost loved one. In your condolence card, you can describe
qualities about the deceased that you appreciated or that you felt made
your life better. These messages will help the family focus on what they
loved about the deceased.
Another great way to fill out a condolence card is with cherished memories
you have of the deceased. Write up a short memory that represents a quality
you loved about the deceased. These memories can comfort the family, especially
if they are stories that the family has never heard.
You might not be able to make the family’s pain or grief go away,
but you can offer other forms of support. In your condolence card, express
that you are available to help the family in any way possible. This can
mean being there to talk or just listen or even helping with household
chores that the family might neglect during their time of grief.
Chapel of the Chimes Oakland offers funeral services near Oakland. We also have a store where funeral
home guests can purchase flowers and other gifts that are appropriate
and comforting during funeral planning. Call us at (510) 654-0123 for