The Basics of Funeral Etiquette

Being tactful and sensitive is a very important part of honoring the deceased at a funeral service. If you are preparing to attend a funeral, it’s important to know about some of the basics of funeral etiquette so that you don’t offend the deceased’s family or friends. At Chapel of the Chimes Oakland, one of the leading funeral homes in Oakland , we recommend familiarizing yourself with the following basics of funeral etiquette.

Condolence Visit

If you are a family member or a close friend of the deceased’s family, it’s proper funeral etiquette to pay a visit to their home to express your condolences. When you visit, bring something for the family to eat. Grieving families are usually so busy and disoriented that they do not find time to eat. You could also offer to run errands for the family or watch over the kids for a bit. Unless the family seems like they need some company, do not stay too long during the condolence visit.

Wake

The wake takes place before the funeral service and oftentimes takes place in the evening. If you cannot attend the funeral, go to the wake to offer your support for the family of the deceased. Typically the wake is held at a funeral home or the family’s home. Unless you are close to the family of the deceased, be sure to tell the family how you know the deceased to avoid confusion.

Post-Funeral Lunch

This is more light-hearted than the funeral. It’s the time to share memories about the deceased. Whether you attend the lunch or not, be sure to follow up with the family of the deceased in the weeks and months following the funeral.

If you are planning a funeral or attending one in the near future, Chapel of the Chimes Oakland can help. We are one of the most beautiful funeral homes in Oakland. Call us at (510) 654-0123 or visit our website to learn more about our funeral services and cremation services.