Comforting the Bereaved

At Chapel of the Chimes, a funeral home in Oakland , we know that life can be immensely difficult for a person who has recently lost a loved one. If you are comforting a friend or family member who has lost a loved one, it’s important to remember that he or she is probably experiencing a great deal of pain. Consider the information below for guidance on how to comfort the bereaved.

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Reach Out Immediately

It may be an inconvenient time for you to reach out to the bereaved after his or her loss, but it is very important to do so as soon as you can. The bereaved individual needs to be reminded that he or she is not alone in the first few days following the loss. There is enormous comfort in knowing that you are surrounded by supportive loved ones in the wake of a loss.

Listen Carefully

It is not easy to offer the right words when your bereaved friend is grieving. This is why it is often best to focus on listening. Following the loss of a loved one, the bereaved may be suffering, angry, or even in shock. Do not judge or lecture him or her, and avoid trying to figure things out on behalf of the bereaved. Just listen and allow space for your friend or loved one to vent and grieve.

Avoid Rushing

Many people make the mistake of trying to rush the bereaved through the grieving process . Whether it has been months or years since the funeral services, it’s important to remember that each person grieves differently and on a different timetable.

Express Love, Now and Later

Following funeral services, the bereaved many feel lonely after everyone has left to return to their respective lives. Give the bereaved a phone call or pay him or her a visit a few weeks after the funeral services to offer support.

To learn about the funeral services we offer at Chapel of the Chimes in Oakland, call us at (510) 379-5200. You can also find information about our cemetery and cremation services on our website.