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    Understanding Common Symptoms of Grief

    Last updated 9 days ago

    Some people grieve for days or weeks, while others do for many years. If you experienced a recent loss, you may experience pain, confusion, and other emotions that are commonly associated with the grieving process. While there are as many different ways to grief as there are people in the world, there are a number of symptoms of grief that people experience. Initially it’s common to experience shock and disbelief—this is usually associated with the denial stage. After this sadness, guilt, and anger are common as the person affected by grief tries to grapple with the reality of their loss. A loss can trigger fears and worries, such as insecurity, anxiety, and helplessness. Grief is not only emotional, however—it is known for producing a wide range of physical symptoms, including fatigue, illness, nausea, weight fluctuation, insomnia, and pain.

    It can be hard to find the support you need to cope with grief. In addition to seeking support from friends and family, Chapel of the Chimes Oakland encourages you to access our 24/7 online grief support services on our website. Visit us online to find out more about our personalized funeral services and cremation services in Oakland.

    Tips on What to Wear to a Funeral

    Last updated 16 days ago

    Following dress etiquette is an important part of most funeral services. At Chapel of the Chimes Oakland, we offer a wide range of funeral services in Oakland. In this article, we will overview some of the considerations to have when you are choosing funeral attire.

    Appropriate Formality

    Funerals are traditionally formal, but check the invitation to see if it specifically says that it will be a more festive memorial service. Some service announcements say to wear the favorite color of the deceased. If the invitation does not specify, it probably means that the funeral will be more formal, which means it’s best to wear business attire such as a dress or a suit. T-shirts, shorts jeans, and casual footwear are typically not appropriate for a funeral service.

    Clean and Presentable Clothing

    Whatever you wear to a funeral, it must be as presentable as possible. All clothing should be washed or dry cleaned. If you are wearing anything that is prone to wrinkling, press it before wearing it to the funeral. Your shoes should be cleaned before the funeral, and polished if they are made of leather.  

    Black or Muted Colors

    The most traditional color for a funeral is black. Although it is not a requirement to wear black to a funeral service, it is highly recommended. Earthy tones such as dark brown and gray are acceptable, but make sure that you avoid wearing bold or bright colors.

    Personalized Style

    For most funeral services, it’s best to wear formal clothing that does not attract attention. If you don’t have a black collared shirt, it’s okay to wear a white or oxford blue shirt. Classic pinstripes are fine for suits and dress shirts.

    Chapel of the Chimes Oakland is one of the most respected funeral homes in Oakland and surrounding areas. For more information about our funeral service and cremation services, visit our website or call us at (510) 455-4004.

    Arranging a Catholic Funeral

    Last updated 23 days ago

    There are a number of details that differentiate a catholic funeral from other types of funeral services. According to catholic funeral tradition, once the body is placed in the casket, a crucifix should be placed in the lid of the casket. Typically a kneeling rail is placed in front of the casket so that friends and family can kneel down next to the casket and say a prayer. To learn more about the unique features of catholic funeral services, watch the video clip.

    At Chapel of the Chimes, we have more than 100 years of experience arranging funeral services in Oakland. To learn more about how we can arrange a catholic funeral for your loved one, give us a call at (510) 455-4004 or visit our website.

    Jazz at the Chimes - January 18, 2015

    Last updated 28 days ago

    Join us on Sunday, January 18th, at 2 p.m. for Jazz at the Chimes featuring the Erik Jekabson Quintet.


    • General admission - $15
    • Seniors & student admission - $10

    Tickets can be purchased at the door (cash only), and the box office opens at 12:30 p.m. For more information, call (510) 654-0123 or email

    The Basics of Funeral Etiquette

    Last updated 1 month ago

    Being tactful and sensitive is a very important part of honoring the deceased at a funeral service. If you are preparing to attend a funeral, it’s important to know about some of the basics of funeral etiquette so that you don’t offend the deceased’s family or friends. At Chapel of the Chimes Oakland, one of the leading funeral homes in Oakland, we recommend familiarizing yourself with the following basics of funeral etiquette.

    Condolence Visit

    If you are a family member or a close friend of the deceased’s family, it’s proper funeral etiquette to pay a visit to their home to express your condolences. When you visit, bring something for the family to eat. Grieving families are usually so busy and disoriented that they do not find time to eat. You could also offer to run errands for the family or watch over the kids for a bit. Unless the family seems like they need some company, do not stay too long during the condolence visit.


    The wake takes place before the funeral service and oftentimes takes place in the evening. If you cannot attend the funeral, go to the wake to offer your support for the family of the deceased. Typically the wake is held at a funeral home or the family’s home. Unless you are close to the family of the deceased, be sure to tell the family how you know the deceased to avoid confusion.

    Post-Funeral Lunch

    This is more light-hearted than the funeral. It’s the time to share memories about the deceased. Whether you attend the lunch or not, be sure to follow up with the family of the deceased in the weeks and months following the funeral.

    If you are planning a funeral or attending one in the near future, Chapel of the Chimes Oakland can help. We are one of the most beautiful funeral homes in Oakland. Call us at (510) 455-4004 or visit our website to learn more about our funeral services and cremation services. 

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